With Ali Behar, LCSW

Jewish Therapist in Los Angeles

I’m a Jewish therapist who has worked with the community throughout my career. I understand the culture, the humor, the expectations, and the nuances that shape daily life.

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Are you carrying pressure from family or community?
Feeling pulled between tradition and independence?
Navigating questions around identity, relationships, or major life decisions?

For many of my clients, the stress isn’t just personal. It can also be generational, cultural, and layered with history and responsibility. And in moments when the world feels especially heavy, a therapist who understands creates a deeper sense of safety.

You don’t have to start therapy by explaining those things. We can start deeper.

Clients Come to Me When They Feel:

Family expectations or pressure

Anxiety about identity or belonging

Stress related to current events

Interfaith relationship dynamics

Burnout, overwork, and perfectionism

Self-doubt or uncertainty about life direction

Intergenerational patterns or trauma

There’s relief in working with a therapist who already has the context: family dynamics, cultural references, traditions, and the complicated ways identity can show up in everyday life.

Being Jewish can be a source of pride, meaning, and community. It can also come with responsibility, guilt, or fear. Both can exist at the same time.

How Therapy with Me Works

Therapy with me is warm, collaborative, and grounded in both cultural understanding and clinical depth. We explore your internal world while also addressing real-life pressures. I’m not a silent therapist; I offer direct feedback, thoughtful questions, and clear perspective when it can help move the work forward.

You won’t be handed religious advice or told what you should believe. Judaism may not come up directly at all. What I bring is cultural fluency and knowing how religion, family, and community shape identity. The foundation is let’s focus on your growth.

Many of my clients are insightful and capable people who are used to handling things on their own. Therapy becomes the place where they can finally slow down, gain perspective, and think more clearly about what comes next.

Modalities I Use

Psychodynamic Therapy

Explores how family history, attachment, and generational patterns influence your anxiety, relationships, and sense of self.

Cognitive Behavioral Therapy CBT

Identifies and shifts negative thought patterns, especially self-criticism and catastrophic thinking.

Dialectical Behavior Therapy DBT Skills

Builds emotion regulation and boundary-setting skills when family dynamics feel overwhelming.

Self-Compassion Therapy

Helps soften internalized guilt and harsh self-judgment.

Positive Psychology and Strengths-Based Work

Identifies core strengths so you can build a life that feels aligned with your values, not just expectations.

“Together, we clarify what feels authentic to you and build the confidence to live it.”

What Jewish clients often bring to therapy

Every person is different, but some themes come up again and again in my work with Jewish clients in Los Angeles:

  • Family expectations — obligation, guilt, and the pull between what you want and what is expected of you.
  • Interfaith relationships — navigating a partner, in-laws, or a family who sees the future differently than you do.
  • Intergenerational patterns — anxiety, vigilance, or survival instincts carried down through a family, sometimes for generations.
  • Identity and belonging — feeling not Jewish enough, too Jewish, or unsure where you fit.
  • Community visibility — the exhaustion of being watched, known, and talked about in a tight community.
  • Anxiety about current events — rising antisemitism, and the specific weight of holding that while going about an ordinary week.
  • Holidays and life-cycle events — the stress packed into High Holidays, weddings, funerals, and everything families do around them.

Do I have to be religious for this to be a fit?

No. Some of my clients are observant, some are culturally Jewish and not religious at all, and some are somewhere in between or actively working that out. Judaism may not come up directly in a single session. What I bring is fluency — you will not have to stop and explain the family dynamic, the holiday, or the reference.

Where I work

I see clients in person in Larchmont Village, Los Angeles, and via secure telehealth anywhere in California — including the Pico-Robertson, Beverlywood, Hancock Park, Sherman Oaks, and Encino communities.

Feel Grounded in Who You Are

“the best time to start therapy is as soon as you’re thinking about it”

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After Therapy, My Clients Report:

Less anxiety

Stronger boundaries

Clearer decision making

More energy

Less guilt

Better relationships

Greater self trust

Renewed joy

Find Strength in Yourself.

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